What a great power in relationships
Relationships enable us to see the human condition like no other.
It is the ultimate testing ground of one’s own inner knowledge.
It is not just a perverse game that I shall break your heart and you shall break mine. This fundamental process of disillusion and self-recognition in having your heart broken is merely to provide you with the opportunity to see the truth of yourself.
That’s why we do it.
Because if my heart is broken — truly broken — then I am free of the belief in myself.
It is always so beautiful when two bodies come together, and there’s no doubt about that. But what it is..
It isn’t long before yourself is trying to make love through its emotions.
And that’s what always happens.
You can see it in the eyes of the people.. the trying, the attempt.. of being someone or being something — when the truth is to be nothing.
And there is something in each and everyone of us that cannot really accept you as you are, while you are the person. Something is repulsed by that without intent even. Because it isn’t true.
And there is something within me trying to reach out every moment to point out in you where the misunderstanding of yourself occurs, but this delusion is so tricky and intricate, so cunning and emotionally clever, that the pointing is missed every second.
And then compassion — true compassion — arises for this condition: the human condition.
The human condition is to be something that you’re not.
The only thing that can set you free is ultimate disillusion and the suffering that goes with that, because you believed in yourself.
That’s why I break you heart.
Not, because I want to hurt you, or because I don’t love you, but because you must be free before I can really love you.
To live the spiritual life without going into relationship is to miss half of what is going on on this planet.